Parents Setting the Example and an Article on Binge Drinking College Students
Parents that allow their adolescent children to binge drink and/or supply them with alcohol could be causing more harm then they think. The following article discusses some of the harmful and damaging effects.
Such actions threaten not only the parental boundaries and relationship a parent has with their child, but also the child’s mind set toward alcohol that they will take to college.
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October 9th, 2007 at 1:45 pm
Of course, the question is whether or not parents ought to ever set a standard or rule that they cannot enforce. Our usual coaching is to say no – that if you set a rule you can’t enforce you’re only setting yourself up for failure. But do we say that because the odds of remaining faithful in marriage, in our minds as well as in our behavior, are so low that we should simply do away with marital vows? Of course not! It’s the same with underage drinking: the expectation is that our children will not drink until they’re of age to make that decision for themselves – and if/when they do not live up to that expectation there will be consequences – that we can enforce!
December 10th, 2007 at 9:56 am
It’s of critical importance that parents deal with teenage drinking with an “open” mind when discussing this issue with their children. Making threats and unrealistic demands of them most likely will fall on deaf ears, and rebellious action could be the result.
December 10th, 2007 at 11:26 am
While teaching high school, I was often appalled by the “lax” attitude some parents had regarding their child’s involvement with underage drinking. One particular incidident stands out: I chaperoned senior prom, and several “national honor society” students came to the event noticably intoxicated. When parents were called, several seemed more irritated with the school than their child. When they were asked to come pick up their child, the attitude seemed to be that the school was “ruining” their child’s senior prom. Furthermore, when the students were faced with the consequence of not walking “with honors” at graduation, some parents threatened to sue the school district. What was the lesson learned by the child?
December 10th, 2007 at 12:54 pm
Our first teachers in life are generally our parents. When parents lead by good example, the children have good messages that are being taught.
December 13th, 2007 at 10:27 am
As a parent myself, I know what my children do at home. I set my examples, talk to them of the dangers of drinking/drugging, they are faced with alot of peer pressure and when they walk out the door all I can do is hope and pray that they make the right choice and have listened and fully understand what I have taught them.
December 13th, 2007 at 6:42 pm
Rules are made to be broken if there isnt any accountability or consequences in the family to teach the children. How can one learn the differances of right or wrong when the stage is set for failure. Rules teach us to respect ourselves and to be respectful, to be honest and hold ourselves accountable, and fall then pick ourselves back up. Life it is the rule that teaches us to reach out.
December 28th, 2007 at 11:21 am
I am not sure on this one. I believe that parents of course are a very vital role and shape the child. However, you can have the best parents in the world that shower you with love and affection and that child can still turn to drugs. You don’t have to be around the drugs to become an addict. I grew up in a house where drugs were normal. I did end up doing meth and I became an alcoholic also. Now, my mother is still an addict and it has shown me how much I don’t want to be like her. I have friends that grew up in loving and nurturing environments and still turned to the dark side that provided something for them that they thought they needed. I have made it a point to not ever drink infront of my children and I had gotten sober from meth when my oldest son was 2, but I do not shelter them from knowing the dangers of drugs. it is unfortunate that I have had to show my son the dark side of drugs due to the fact that he can have no contact with his grandmother due to this. I always use that saying that my parents did the best they could with what they knew. I just had to make sure and not repeat this vicious cycle with my children. I am very fortunate to work in an atmosphere that teaches me how to deal with these issues.
January 8th, 2008 at 4:19 pm
We learn by our parents examples. I grew up and was able to underage drink and have parties in my field. My moms theory was that she knew we were safe and we we not out using drugs. This taught me that alcohol wasn’t a drug and that it was okay to do.
January 9th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
I picked up a lot of habbits and life skills from my parents when i was younger until i was able to find some for my own. I know with my parents, my mom and dad never supported me in the decisions i was making concerning drugs, alcohol, and being arrested. I knew when i was younger that my Dad smoked pot, and through out my life i would watch him drink which gave me a great justification later on when my addiction picked up. I believe though that even if i didn’t have those examples set in my life, my addiction still would have progressed, maybe not as fast as it did, but eventually i would have hit bottom.
April 10th, 2008 at 2:40 pm
[...] Parents often think there is little they can do to ensure their kids do not start using drugs. But, the #1 reason why kids do not use drugs is because they do not want to upset the parents. In addition, kids that learn about drug risks from their parents are 50% less likely to start using. In other words, kids who have parents that talk to them about drugs are less likely to try them. [...]